Excuses, excuses

It has been a bad blogging month for me – I haven’t posted anything since the 3rd March and I feel at odds with my blog, out of touch with the blogosphere, and my blogging mojo is distinctly absent-without-leave.  Week after week has gone by with my MacBook Air gathering dust on the dining room table, while I formed blog-posts in my mind standing on the tube, nosed pressed into a stranger’s armpit (not through choice you understand), or while walking home from the station, wishing I hadn’t worn heels to work that day: for you see right now, those are the moments where I can indulge in some luxury “me time”, time alone – yes that’s right, my time alone is pretty much just when I’m commuting, oh, and going to the toilet, I’m generally alone for that (although sometimes the cat or Richmond Baby finds a way to barge in) – I know, I know, proper luxurious….

Anyway, you know what it’s like if you have a blogging dry patch – it starts out just a few days, then before you know it, it’s been a week, and you start to get a bit panicky but instead of just sitting down and writing, you start trying to build in an hour or so of quality time to your day/week when you can focus on the blog and get something decent written.  And that of course never happens, because something else – life usually – get’s in the way.

So, why is it that I haven’t blogged for the last 22 days? Well…

Work.  Work is without a doubt THE number one reason why I haven’t been blogging lately.  I went back to work in January, it was pretty full on but manageable.  Then it went through a unnervingly calm period, which gave me a false sense of security that I could manage the right work/life balance, then it all kicked off again.  Don’t get me wrong, there are lots of good days alongside the challenging ones, but I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that by the time I get home from 8 hours of fast-paced non-stop rushing around and typing furiously at my desk, plus a total of about 1.5 hours commute a day, and then the “being a mummy” bit at the start and end of each day, frankly by the time 7.30/8pm arrives and Richmond Baby is asleep, all I’m good for is passing out on the sofa and watching University Challenge.  I can just about manage to eat dinner, let alone make it!  Thankfully, Richmond Daddy seems to have largely taken up the role of Jaime in our house and is building up quite an impressive collection of 30 minute meals, plus on Mondays and Wednesdays dinner is taken care of by my parents or in-laws, who look after Richmond Baby those afternoons, and very kindly have dinner waiting for us when we get in (I know, super lucky).  But all in all, the week flies by at such a pace that before I know it I’ve racked up another 7 days without blogging and all those posts formed in my mind are now like leftovers from the Sunday roast I planned to do something with but never did – out of date and a bit stale.

Snot.  Snot along with its merry partners a cough, a cold, and suspected flu symptoms, are another reason why blogging has taken a backseat.  If it’s not Richmond Baby or even the “I never get ill” Richmond Daddy who’s snotting and coughing all over the place, then it seems nowadays it is me who is regularly coming down with something or other.  I have been warned by many that when you have a child, particularly one who is attending nursery, that you just have to cope with the onslaught of illnesses basically until they go to university (or join the circus).  And I’m here to verify, that appears to indeed be true.  I don’t know who is passing what to whom, my suspicions lie with the baby-faced one, but I have been suffering with a series of wipe-you-out colds, coughs (I’ve experienced both dry and tickly, now we’re onto chesty – which makes me sound like an 88 year old man after too many Woodbines), flu-like aches and pains, and generally feelings of weariness.  All of which have left me with zero energy, it’s all I can do to get myself up and out the door, let alone find the necessary spring-in-my-step to write something decent and entertaining here.  Sigh.

True Blood.  It’s back on TV.  This is a good thing.  A very good thing.  If you are watching the latest series, you will know that it is a particularly good one in which Eric (my favourite vamp) has become all deep and sensitive – which sat a little uneasy with me at first, given that I liked his mean and moody and threatening afore demeanour – but I’m now falling for him all over again in this new guise.  However, this has also been getting in the way of me getting busy on the laptop.  How so, you ask?  Well, with everything that’s been going on, I have little if any time to watch much TV, certainly any TV I do watch I usually multi-task and tap tap tap away on my laptop at the same time as semi-watching some dross or other (Richmond Daddy hates that by the way, but is learning to live with it I think…).  But I just can’t do that with True Blood, it demands my full and undivided attention, which means that for 1 hour a week, I am glued to my screen, lusting after Eric, laughing at Lafayette, or wanting to throw the remote control at Sookie (well, come on, she is a teensy-weensy bit annoying, I mean what is it with her and her penchant for wandering through graveyards or densely  wooded areas in the middle of the night dressed in a lemon yellow prom dress or flimsy white t-shirt and shorts that could pass for knickers, when all manner of supernaturals are prowling – surely that’s just asking for trouble, and that Tara’s no better, she should just learn to just stay in with the door locked of an evening too!).  One hour a week lost to Eric might not sound like a lot (it sounds bloody fantastic actually when I put it like that…), but it’s an hour I’m not blogging in a week when I’m not blogging, in what becomes almost a month when I’m not blogging.  And the net result? – I’ve not been blogging.  Bad times.

So, today it stops.  This not blogging business.  Come work, come snot, come Eric, no matter.  Today is the first day of the re-focus on my blog.  From now on, I WILL find the time and I WILL blog daily… okay, maybe not daily, let’s at least aim for weekly, maybe twice weekly on a good week.  I love my little blog and I really want to develop it and grow it and build it into something great.  Heck, one day I’d love to maybe even win an award for it (well, it’s good to have hopes and dreams right?).  It’s time to make the time to blog.

But this March sunshine’s not going to help…

*throws on sunglasses and rushes to Richmond Green to absorb vitamin D and frolic in outdoor pursuits*

The Big 100!

Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-daaaaaaaaah…. whizz bang *sound of fireworks going off* – this post, this very post wot I is now writing (sic), marks my 100th blog post since I began the Richmond Mummy blog back in February this year.  I thank you, *takes a bow*.

Truly I can’t quite believe that I have made it this far and that this is my 100th post – 100th POST!!! I shall allow myself a celebratory pat on the back (I would have allowed myself a celebratory glass of wine, but I had quite enough of that last night – see exhibit A, photo blog of yesterday).  Ahem.

Anyway, I have been thinking about how to mark this momentous occasion and decided to write a post capturing the first 100 days of my beautiful baby girl’s life.  She is, after all, the inspiration for and reason behind me blogging, and so it seems fitting that to mark my big 100, this post looks at those first 100 days.  So, here we go…

Day 1:  Allegra Christina Cox born by c-section, Adele’s “Feel My Love” plays on the radio

Day 2: We’ve already fallen completely in love with our little bubba, who loves to snooze

Day 3: We’re still approaching nappy changes as a two person job, but gradually learning

Day 4: Discharged from hospital, once home we discover the joyous power of dummies

Day 5: We survive our first full day with bubba at home – success!

Day 6: Cousins Jo and Claire come to visit and fall in love with our little baby bug

Day 7: The Young Family visit and little Josh brings home-baked cakes, yum!

Day 8: Nonna (my mum) comes to visit and helps, helps, helps, helps, helps!

Day 9: We officially register Allegra’s birth, comedy… (see here). Aunty Chrissy visits

Day 10: We begin Gina Ford routine (ignoring advice like when to eat your breakfast)

Day 11: Granny & Grandad Cox visit and take many many many photographs!

Day 12: 9 nappy changes in 24 hours – this baby sure can poo and wee!!

Day 13: Our first night out, with baby, for cousin Claire’s graduation dinner – lovely!

Day 14: I start to just about get adjusted to what 4.30 in the morning looks like…

Day 15: Lovely NCT friend visits to talk about what it’s like being induced… I lie!

Day 16: Pancake Day at a neighbour’s house – I eat pancakes, baby sleeeeeeeeps

Day 17: Regroup with 2 NCT girls for first time post birth – swap notes on poo, wee, etc.

Day 18: Discharged by midwife as Richmond Baby now weighing in at 4450g

Day 19: My first time away from baby – 2 hours at the hairdressers – strange but needed!

Day 20: The ongoing cycle of feeding and nappy changing continues…

Day 21: What day is it?!?… the ongoing cycle of feeding and changing continues…

Day 22: Wee & poo, wee & poo, wee & poo, wee & poo, wee, wee, wee & poo, poo & wee

Day 23: More visiting from grandparents.  Lots more photo taking!

Day 24: First time at “the baby clinic” – Allegra wees on me, I have no change of clothes

Day 25: Aunty Susan visits…. lots of photos are taken!

Day 26: 3am, 7am, 10am, 1.40pm, 4.40pm, 6pm, 7.30pm, 11.30pm – she loves her milk!

Day 27: Allegra meets Andy & Siobhan.  Andy & Siobhan marvel at how big she is!

Day 28: Wee/poo/wee/poo/poo/wee/wee/wee/poo/wee

Day 29: More visiting from the grandparents.  More photo taking :-)

Day 30: Baby Annalie comes to play, she shows Allegra how to work the baby gym!

Day 31: More visiting from grandparents.  Lots of cuddles, lots of kisses, lots of photos!

Day 32: NCT group reunion at tutor’s house – comedy photo of babies lined up on sofa

Day 33: A spring walk in Richmond Park with bubba and fellow mummy friends

Day 34: NCT group reunion with mummies, daddies, and babies – chaos and cake!

Day 35: We fill in the Census,  logging details of baby’s residence in our household!

Day 36: Wee/poo/wee/wee/wee/wee/wee

Day 37: 3.30am, 6.30am, 10.30am, 2pm, 5pm, 5.50pm, 6.30pm, 11pm – milk, yum!

Day 38: My first “worried first time mum” visit to the GP with baby – she had sniffles…

Day 39: NCT girls movie afternoon – we talk all the way through – poo, wee, feeding, etc.

Day 40: I start Richmond Baby on the Infacol – wow, that creates some loud burps!

Day 41: My first proper night out – karaoke, with girlfriends – Daddy’s in charge at home

Day 42: My first Mother’s Day – a very special day spent with family and lots of love

Day 43: Tristanne and little Zach visit – Zach introduces Allegra to Toy Story’s Woody

Day 44: Poo and wee, poo and wee, wee, poo, wee, poo (lots), wee

Day 45: Poo, wee, wee, poo and wee, wee

Day 46: Kat from work visits, looking glamourous, but brings biscuits so I forgive her

Day 47: 6-week postnatal check up, GP: “fine to start exercising now” – ahem, yeah right!

Day 48: Efe and little Josh visit, Josh eats gravel in garden (note: start baby proofing)

Day 49: Lunch on sunny day with the Youngs & Bells – fight with baby re wearing sunhat

Day 50: Back to the baby clinic – 7 weeks old, weighing 11lbs 12oz, measuring 22 inches

Day 51: R. Daddy goes to Israel on business – my first experience home alone with bubba

Day 52: Weeeeeeee, poo, wee, poooooooo, wee, wee, wee

Day 53: Nonna babysits, I go out to dinner (fun but wishing I could use time to sleep!)

Day 54: Wee, poo, wee, wee, poo, poo, poo, wee

Day 55: The lovely Boon family visit and cook us lunch and do all the washing up! Bliss!

Day 56: Jenny and little Archie visit, Archie enjoys terrorising the cat hee hee

Day 57: Wee, wee, poo, wee, poo/wee, wee, wee

Day 58: 8 week jabs – heartbreaking :-( but made easier by lovely nurse at the surgery

Day 59: Allegra has hip scan, she’s given all clear and pees all over the examination bed

Day 60: I begin logging every poo, wee, feed, sleep on Baby Geek iPhone app (obsessive!)

Day 61: Jo & Fraser visit with beautiful dress for baby, we find excuse to drink Champers

Day 62: Not sure what happened this day, but probably lots of baby cuddling and kissing!

Day 63: Easter Sunday with the grandparents, we eat all baby’s Easter eggs for her (ahem)

Day 64: Richmond Daddy returns to the golf course…

Day 65: R. Daddy has a night out (I know, I’m too good to him – golf then a night out…)

Day 66: Baby Clinic again – bubba now 13lbs and in 91st percentile… what a chubber!

Day 67: Baby’s first train ride – we bring her in to my work and R. Daddy’s (showing off!)

Day 68: It’s the Royal Wedding! And baby’s first street party :-)

Day 69: Melissa comes to visit giving baby a little toy dog, toy dog is now a favourite

Day 70: Lunch at the Gaucho Grill with friends, Richmond Baby charms the waitresses

Day 71: Jenny & little Archie come to visit again (Pigalle the cat hides this time… :-) )

Day 72: Fun with the grandparents – lots of giggles, lots of cuddles, lots of photos!

Day 73: I brave the trip up to London with baby without R. Daddy for lunch with friend

Day 74: Take baby to Infant Massage Workshop; Allegra feeds throughout and misses it!

Day 75: Friday PM drinks, discover baby monitor works when we’re in next door’s lounge

Day 76: Nonna on babysitting duty again as I go on hen do – baby sleeps like a dream :-)

Day 77: Thankfully not too hung over to deal with baby waking at crack of dawn!

Day 78: We start Gymboree – so much fun, baby is slightly bemused and confused!

Day 79: I manage to lock myself out.. thankfully take refuge at NCT friend’s house!

Day 80: Check, check, and triple check I have my keys before leaving the house again…

Day 81: Attend Home Safety Workshop – start panicking re level of baby proofing needed

Day 82: Bring baby to the GP with a cold – GP: “she’s fine, it’s just a cold…” – hmmm…

Day 83: Move baby from moses basket into by-the-bed crib, she’s outgrown basket!

Day 84: R. Daddy goes back to the golf course.  Aunty Chrissy visits for kisses and cuddles

Day 85: More Gymboree fun – Richmond Baby gets fond of the maracas!

Day 86: We send off Allegra’s passport application – with the cutest photo ever!

Day 87: 12 week jabs – a brave little girl, but still lots of tears…. :-(

Day 88: Attend weaning workshop, to swot up in advance – panic at thought of mess

Day 89: Bring R. Baby to Uncle Cy’s 70th Birthday party, she sleeps through festivities!

Day 90: Saturday afternoon stroll on the Green, with snoozing boo in buggy

Day 91: A day in the park, with alfresco nappy changing – a new experience…

Day 92: Hooray, it’s a Gymboree-day… R. Baby discovers the joys of ball pools

Day 93: Lunch with NCT girlies and babies – lots of cake, lots of baby talk, more photos!

Day 94: @The Pottery Cafe – painting a Father’s Day mug for R. Daddy with baby’s feet

Day 95: Think about starting to plan the Christening. Put it off for another day…

Day 96: Think about researching baby-friendly holiday.  Put it off for another day…

Day 97: Go to hairdresser, discover they serve you wine while you have hair done – result!

Day 98: Christening planning phase one – start going to mass again…!

Day 99: R. Daddy accompanies us to Gymboree – gets stuck in to the singing/dancing… :-)

Day 100: Start Mother & Baby Yoga – baby is bemused, mummy is seriously decrepit!

So there you have it.  The first 100 days of life with Richmond Baby, to mark the 100th post on Richmond Mummy.  Good times.

Yay, I’m an Emma’s Diary Blogger!

I have an announcement to make… I’m now an Emma’s Diary Blogger and pleased as punch about it I am too!  As most of you will know, Emma’s Diary is the popular and award-winning pregnancy guide written in association with the Royal College of General Practitioners that is generally given to mothers-to-be by their GPs or midwives.  I remember it was one of the first sources of information I got my hands on when I was newly pregnant with Richmond Baby and I devoured the pages, but tried desperately hard not to jump ahead in reading the week-by-week pregnancy diary – so that I wouldn’t spoil it for myself – but the weeks go by soooooo slowly in those first 3-months that I was frequently reading two weeks at a time.  So risqué me…!

Anyhooooo, I digress.  So yes, the Emma’s Diary magazine, which is complimented by the website of the same name, has now launched the Emma’s Diary Blog and I am delighted to have been chosen as one of the 10 “real women” bloggers contributing to the site.  How cool is that?!? I’m so happy to be part of the Emma’s Diary bloggy-family and will now be sharing my Richmond Mummy musings over at The Real Emma’s Diary (as well as on here of course).

My first post on the blog will be published on 11th November, but in the meantime you can swing by the site to take a look at the other bloggers who’ll be contributing and start reading all their individual stories as they go live in the coming weeks.

And once again I say…. Yay!! (I get a bloggy badge and everything – see right – pleased as punch I am, pleased as punch…)